Workplace Relationships

Getting your first job is an exciting, terrifying, and challenging experience. It is something you will remember for a long time and it shapes how you begin to think about yourself as a worker. You are literally "learning as you go" in this completely new environment. You are going to make mistakes... more

Hello. That must be very frustrating for you to feel that you to be reminded of constant wrongdoing in your relationship, especially when you feel that your wife does not admit to any fault. This could lead you to feel inadequate in the relationship that can harm your relationship in the long-term... more

Here is the truth: You will never get her to understand! because that would mean changing her and we can't change other people we can only change ourselves. I would recommend to take the time to self reflect on what exactly it is that you are doing that is contributing to the mixup. You both have... more

People often project their insecurities onto others. Has she been cheated on prior to your marriage, or has there been infidelity in the marriage? Would she seek therapy for her insecurities, and/or couple’s therapy? Also, something to consider is not to allow someone else’s insecurities... more

It sounds like you feel your wife doesn’t trust you and it’s frustrating for you because you aren’t cheating on her and you aren’t trying to be disrespectful towards her. It must be really difficult to constantly be faced with accusations and misunderstandings from your wife. I am so sorry you are... more

What do you think is at the root of your impostor syndrome? In my work with clients with ADHD, autism, giftedness, and performance anxiety, I notice that there are commonalities in reasons for impostor syndrome, like perfectionism, low self-esteem, internalized ableism, trauma history, or masking... more

Much of feeling like an imposter is about our comparing ourselves to others and carrying what others think. Make a note of what all leads you to feel as if you are an imposter and then as with a science experiment write down all the ways that hypothesis is incorrect, write down all the ways you... more

I am curious, what makes you stay? Sometimes "managing stress" is only a band aid to a bigger problem. When you ask yourself "what your life would look like without this stress," what do you see? We can easily talk about coping strategies for stress. Mindfulness, deep breathing, meditation... more

Ugh, overworked and underpaid is such a terrible combination. I applaud you for recognizing your value, both monetarily and otherwise. To manage your anxiety at work, consider putting together a small grounding box for yourself to have at work - fill it with fidgets, hard candy or gum, something... more

It is so hard to feel undervalued on the job! To be given so much work and not to get paid for it is unfortunately a headache many experience. Make sure that you are surrounding yourself with loved ones and ways of relaxing when you are not on the job, and taking care of yourself (aka eating well... more