Social Relationships

Hi There...do you find it is just in crowds or do you find it when you are around other people as well? Like if someone is angry you can feel their anger? if they are sad, you feel their sadness? Are the thoughts and conversations sometimes mean and then you feel guilty, and then feel bad about... more

First, let me say that I am so sorry for all of the discomfort you have experienced. It sounds like, although you said you don't like people, I am guessing it starts with not feeling very likable yourself. The "conversations" you describe having are not really conversations at all -- they are more... more

You are not alone. Lots of people are uncomfortable around other people and especially in large crowds. In therapy, I would want to know more about your feelings with people you ARE close to such as family, friends, or coworkers, how long you've had these feelings, and if there are times when... more

It can be hard to figure out why certain situations lead you to feel angry, or fearful. We all have certain rules/beliefs about living life that were created over time. When our minds seem to never shut off it can be helpful to spend some time in the present moment you are in. I am guessing that... more

First of all, having these thoughts and feelings does not mean there is something wrong with you. It's very normal to worry about social relationships and how others see us because we need other people in our lives to survive and thrive.It sounds like you may have some social anxiety, which is very... more

It's common with social anxiety to replay or "pre-play" conversations in your mind - often focusing on how you believe it did or could go wrong. CBT can be helpful in pinpointing what's keeping this cycle of anxiety and avoidance going for you if it's something you wish to change. It's also... more

When I talk with clients about social anxiety sometimes I'll ask them what they would do if their anxiety was manageable. Would you want to be more social? Would that improve you quality of relationships in your life? These answers can clarify what you want your life to look like and how much... more

Your very concern about your response to being around children shows that you aren't a bad person--it actually speaks to that you care. Panic attacks are really scary and not easy to deal with. I wonder what you mean by paranoia--does this mean you are worried about your body's response when you... more

Your fear may not seem "rational" but that doesn't mean it doesn't make sense! There's 100% a reason for why this fear happens for you. Most everyone has this fear because we are social animals and need to care what others think of us sometimes. When it becomes a bigger issue is when it keeps you... more

Congrats on the new gf!If you need a period of social withdrawal, then this is not necessarily a quality to fight with yourself against.If your girlfriend isn't empathetic and willing to tolerate a basic part of your personality, then set a standard for yourself of being respected.As long as you're... more