Relationships

Are you seeing a therapist? Do you take your depression seriously? The seriousness of this is gauged by how he feels about it. People typically feed off our energy. You feel you are depressed and if you want to take massive action towards your healing, doing what is best for you regardless of... more

How does holding on to this serve you? Not becoming married to the trauma will be key. Recreating your life and what that means, what you want it to be. Considering who you would be, what would life be like had this not occurred, not letting it usurp your life. Take your power back. Releasing any... more

Often people with extensive trauma have difficulty talking about it. This lessens the impact of traditional talk therapy and there benefits. There is a helpful therapy called EMDR that is limited in the amount of talking and also has quick benefits for the reduction of symptoms. For those who are in... more

One way to find peace and contentment is to self-generate the love, acceptance, validation, and belonging you crave from others, inside yourself. Working thru how you came to a point where the sum total of your worth is based on others’ opinions of you and how your career, relationship status, etc... more

That you are thinking of ending it is a partial clue as to how you feel. Another suggestion is to weigh the pros and cons of staying vs leaving the relationship. You can also make a list of your ideal partner and see how much of that he matches. This video could also be of great help ▶ Why You Can... more

Discuss with her boundaries and discuss what would occur if this “crush” becomes more than originally anticipated. Decide what you would do individually if any of this occurs. Ask yourself, if you trust her especially given the long distance. Open, candid conversations would be crucial as you go... more

I agree with Sherry that in a close intimate relationship, you are entitled to ask questions about his relationship with significant others. These questions help couples to build connection and trust. It's based on the idea that if you reach out to him for whatever reason (support, openess... more

 One area to view is trust.  If she does not trust you then that is an area to delve deeper. Sometimes people project onto others what they are dealing with themselves.   

In a way, yes, you have separation anxiety. It's normal in a relationship for us to slow down a bit with the attachment behaviours that establish and deepen love and connection. So, just because your boyfriend isn't talking as much or keeping you up-to-date doesn't necessarily mean what you fear it... more

Long distance relationships have their challenges, and I am wondering if part of the missing attraction is due to the distance. Has the relationship always been long-distance, or is this a change? How do you feel when you are visiting one another? Are you distracted by your lack of feelings of lust... more