Relationships

First sending you 💕 This would be the clingy or needy action yes. I would suggest talk therapy finding someone to share these feeling with a professional. One that has spiritual counseling background like myself so we can work on self care and self love. Til then here are some tips: !- Breathe... more

💕 They say three can be a crowd. First ask yourself how you felt when you were with this friend that weekend? Did I feel uncomfortable and was I thinking of my boyfriend the whole time? Did I communicate with my boyfriend that weekend while with my friend? Think about why he maybe reacted to... more

Communication is so helpful when it comes to situations like these. As partners, you will often find that your assumptions are not actually obvious expectations. What makes it more challenging is that we don't often know what our assumptions are until life happens and we realize the need for... more

It sounds like your partner is avoiding you by dismissing your feelings. I'm wondering what is at the root of his discomfort. Couples counseling to teach intentional and effective communication would be a helpful next step. Psychoeducation for your partner to learn about mental health and depression... more

As someone who specializes in sexuality and polyamory, I can tell you that your experience is incredibly common. It can be helpful to keep in mind that alcohol lowers our inhibitions, and for first time threesomes or any new sexual behavior really, we humans tend to enjoy a little extra oomph to our... more

I think honesty is the right approach in this situation. Share with him that you looked at his phone, as well as sharing with him any fears or concerns that you're having about the long distance relationship. Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship and when doubt & distrust creep... more

Some people simply talk to themselves as a way of processing information. Have you checked in with your husband about this in a non-accusatory way? Something like "Hey babe (or whatever sweet name you typically use), I'm so curious what that's all about? Do you notice that you are talking out loud... more

Being out about childhood trauma is the bravest thing a person can do, and the fact that you are clear about what happened to you is a good sign that you are ready to heal. Recovering from past harm can be done with a therapist who is well-trained in trauma recovery. This type of therapy is most... more

I encourage you to reach out to a therapist that specializes in trauma. Processing trauma in therapy can be a difficult journey -- but we often have to process and move through the pain in order to get to the other side and move forward with our lives. I wish you the best of luck in your journey as... more

Have you spoken to him about your fears? Perhaps you can explain this feeling to him and let him know what might lead to feeling more secure.  Also, it is important to trust your intuition!  Perhaps there are good reasons to feel concerned. It may not be paranoia - it may be based in reality!