Relationships

Men who are married to women but also enjoy sex with other men may face many conflicting feelings. In some cases, they may feel guilty or ashamed for having these desires, while in others, they may be confused about them. It is important for any person with these feelings to understand that it is... more

It may not feel like it, but you are in a great spot! You know what is holding you back! It sounds like you want to deal with your past and find healing, so you can move forward in freedom. Trauma is life-altering and at any age, especially when we are young. Meeting with a counselor who works... more

First, let me congratulate you on being brave enough to post this question. Many have said this to you and I concur with them. In response to your question, I would say that learning to integrate the traumatic experience is going to be key. It is good that there is awareness of the issue, because... more

Long distance relationships have their challenges, and I am wondering if part of the missing attraction is due to the distance. Has the relationship always been long-distance, or is this a change? How do you feel when you are visiting one another? Are you distracted by your lack of feelings of lust... more

Attraction is important but sometimes over-rated. I'm curious about your comment that you are not as attracted as you "should be" - What is your measuring stick is for what you are supposed to feel in terms of attraction in a relationship? Do you want to be sexually intimate? Do you enjoy having sex... more

Hi Montgomery, Your first sentence says it all. He might be an amazing person, but there's something missing for you. I'm curious...you say this is a long distance relationship. Did you make a connection through social media or email first? Maybe a dating website? I'm just wondering if this is the... more

I've been in this situation before and have some insight to share with you. In my experience, he was lying and trying to cover it up. By pushing you to std testing, he's distracting you so he can shift the guilt he feels and blame it on you. In a guilty man's mind I believe he's thinking-...if I... more

The answer lies in what the outcome will be. How will things end if you find out he had sex with a prostitute? Will you leave? Will you try to work things out? The multiple versions are concerning. He seems unable to be truthful and this is damaging your relationship. Before considering marital... more

I agree with Sherry that in a close intimate relationship, you are entitled to ask questions about his relationship with significant others. These questions help couples to build connection and trust. It's based on the idea that if you reach out to him for whatever reason (support, openess... more

That definitely sounds scary and I'm sorry you had to experience that. I'm not familiar with your boyfriend or his history however I will say that when others get angry to the point they want to hurt/hit themselves most likely they haven't learned healthy ways of expressing their anger and they cope... more