Relationships

"Practice makes perfect"! Simply by expressing yourself and listening to if others listen and understand you, then modifying your next try with whatever improvements you think of based on the impressions you feel others have of you, will progress your self-expression. Also, one way to lessen the... more

You're expecting reasonable behaviors from your boyfriend's father. Since the father is his, your boyfriend is the person in position to speak directly with his dad about the expectations you and he have of the father. If your boyfriend has a good relationship w his dad, which is not what this... more

Because the acrobatics and excitement of sex has nothing to do with the meaning of deeper emotional attachment to another person with whom we are in a relationship. Try to distinguish between your feelings of excitement from the novel sexual arrangement and what you feel is necessary in order to... more

People often have very different values and opinions when they are drinking excessively and when they stop drinking so much. Did the two of you share drinking as an activity?  If yes, then did you stop drinking too? Often when partners meet each other as drinking buddies when one gets sober, the... more

You're probably not going to like my answer. Your question says a lot about what YOU want rather than what she wants or what may be best for her. Sometimes, what's best for a person is the hardest thing to do, and may be completely opposite of what YOU want. Addictions don't happen in a vacuum. If... more

The most important thing to ask yourself here is, "how did this action affect my relationship, and is it worth the consequences?" Regardless of your intentions in this action, your boyfriend is uncomfortable with this type of behavior. From here, we can objectively decide if spending time with your... more

While you can't be responsible for your boyfriend's feelings, relationships do come with expectations.   Both people in a relationship bring their own expectations into it.  These expectations are usually unspoken, but result in conflict as you are experiencing here!  Your boyfriend expects you not... more

You are right that his insecurities are at the root of the issue.  You cannot change that for him.  He will have to do the work to handle those emotions on his own.   What you can do is reassure him in whatever ways possible, but always recognizing that you can't "fix" this for him.   When I work... more

Definitely yes, it is possible for a couple to trust each other again and become close with each other. Since your trust was broken, your fiancé would need to earn back your belief that he is faithful to you. Do you feel he empathizes with how you felt to find out about his cheating? Before you have... more

From what you write you've got good motivation to change and awareness as to what you'd like to change.  These are very good predictors that you'll be successful in what you'd like to change. Try, the next time you realize you're depending on your bf instead of friends, yourself, to interrupt... more