Parenting

Hi. Bright kids often have a sense of perfectionism....when they are smart they often do not get to many opportunities to fail early in life because they adapt quickly. IAs they get older, they feel failure, and it can trigger anxiety. If you find she is sensitive in other areas, like really in tune... more

Hello there, first I'd like to say I think it's great that you are reaching out as a parent and wanting to help her. My first thought is whatever is going on with her is not silly to her, and is impacting her in a real way. She is responding the best she can right now. It does sound like she is... more

It sounds like your daughter may be experiencing heightened levels of anxiety based on her value system of wanting to ensure she is 'good enough' or 'doing all the right things.' Talking to a trained professional could help her to decompress some of those feelings as well as find ways to challenge... more

Hello,Based on how you are describing your daughter, I am going to come from the perspective that she is in grade school. If this is the case, there is likely a lot of pressure being a younger student academically. That, along with a social visibility and how her friends see her, can contribute to... more

It's so tough to watch your children struggle and it seems like you care strongly about how she is feeling.I think there's a lot of questions that come to mind when I read this question. What things upset her? How often do these things occur? What would it mean if it "broke" her? Also, is she a... more

I agree w your theory about your kids behaving fearfully means they’ve been w someone who created this feeling in them.It’s possible the father threatens and intimidates, and stops himself from following through w physically harming them.Approach the father the way you feel has the greatest chance... more

The kids are actually her Property, and he does have a claim to them as he wishes;The house is yours, I presume;So require that if he wishes to see his Property, it be done off of your Property;And, that as long as it remains your Property, you have jurisdiction over all those, therein;Require... more

Establish limits on how much money you'll give to him, tell these limits, and as you pointed out, expect him to not care or respect your limits.Try an Al-Anon meeting. These meetings are for family members in similar situations to yours.People who are addicted are not always willing to know... more

Has something scary ever happened when you were carrying your baby before you had panic attacks? Could have to do with fear of incompetence as a parent, but may be something unrelated.For example, if you got some really bad news when you were carrying your child, your brain may pair those two... more

That's a really tough situation and it can feel like you have no control as a teen. Have you checked your state's laws? In some states, you can choose which parent you live with as long as you are above a certain age. How comfortable do you feel about talking to your mom about staying there... more