Marriage questions and answers

How can I tell if my spouse had sex with a prostitute?

Helping Families & Marriages Repair, Recover & Thrive

Hello, The truth is that you will never know unless your husband decides to be upfront about the details to gain your trust. One thing is for sure though, not knowing and having this uncertainty in your heart will push your husband and you further away from being able to repair the marriage. The... more

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Sherry Katz, LCSW

Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

The only two people who know the answer to your question are your husband and the prostitute.The question you did and can answer is the reason you would doubt your husband, which is bc of his multiple stories.Ideally your husband cares to restore your sense of confidence in the stories he tells you... more

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Amy Higgs OTR/L, CLT, CAPS

Mobile Occupational Therapist: sensory bus for children with ASD, SPD, ADD/ADHD and trauma

The answer lies in what the outcome will be. How will things end if you find out he had sex with a prostitute? Will you leave? Will you try to work things out? The multiple versions are concerning. He seems unable to be truthful and this is damaging your relationship. Before considering marital... more

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Should I get a divorce?

Vivian D. Echevarria Guzman, MSC, LPC-S, NCC

Bilingual Licensed Professional Counselor

Clearly you seem interested in being other people, and you are also concerned about your husband being unfaithful online. But it seems like there is something that keeps you with your husband. And I have so many questions for you: What are you looking for outside of your marriage? Are you... more

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What makes a good marriage?

Zofia Czajkowska, PhD OPQ

Psychologist in Montreal

What a great question! Marriage (or any long-term committed romantic relationship) is never easy. Ups & downs, doubts and fights are a part of it just the same as the wonderful, tender, blissful moments of connection. Recognizing that hardships are normal and something to work through is a big... more

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Lauren Ostrowski, MA, LPC, NCC, DCC, CCTP

I tailor my therapeutic approach to each client's strengths and goals

This is a fantastic question. In one sentence, I would say the following:Recognize that while you and your partner probably have common interests and areas of commonality, you are separate people, each with different wants, wishes, and desires – if you consider a diagram of two overlapping circles... more

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My husband cheated before marriage—what can I do?

Sherry Katz, LCSW

Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

This sounds very painful for you.Are you able to tell him how his flirting affects you?Maybe he doesn't care enough to change, and maybe he does.Long term if he continues this then usually people feel they have two choices, put up with it, which of course greatly reduces the sense of satisfaction in... more

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Should I stay with my manipulative husband?

Sherry Katz, LCSW

Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

I think your own awareness will not allow you to continue in a bad relationship.Be glad something within you is telling you that there are better ways to be treated than how your husband does.For support and guidance in real time, look up the organizations in your area which help women to leave... more

The information above is intended as general information... (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.

I feel completely alone in my marriage

Tamara Powell

Anything But Ordinary!

Piggybacking on the other respondent's suggestions, I also agree that most couples could use more frequent and more bonding communication in their relationships, and this is a GREAT place to get the ball rolling towards reconnecting.Surveying the demographical data on long-term relationships, it's... more

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Should I tell my separated wife that I'm expecting a child with the woman I'm dating?

Sherry Katz, LCSW

Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Only tell your former girlfriend who is the mother of your son, what is necessary for her to know as it relates to your son.The mother of your son has every right as a parent to know who is directly involved in her son's life.First figure out how you will handle your current girlfriend's request to... more

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How can I tell if my spouse had sex with a prostitute?

Should I get a divorce?

What makes a good marriage?

My husband cheated before marriage—what can I do?

Should I stay with my manipulative husband?

I feel completely alone in my marriage

Should I tell my separated wife that I'm expecting a child with the woman I'm dating?

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