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I've been in this situation before and have some insight to share with you. In my experience, he was lying and trying to cover it up. By pushing you to std testing, he's distracting you so he can shift the guilt he feels and blame it on you. In a guilty man's mind I believe he's thinking-...if I... more
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This may not be the answer that you want to hear, but it will be impossible for you to be certain of whether or not your spouse had sex unless they tell you that they remember they did. In order to elicit the most honest response, it is important that you give your partner a safe, nonjudgmental... more
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I think if a person asked for a STD test there is a high chance that something happen. I would go with your gut.
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One question I have, is how would this impact your relationship now if you were to know the answer? It sounds as though you may be experiencing issues with trust in your relationship. I believe the bigger issue here is not whether or he has had sex with someone else a few years ago, but more that... more
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It sounds like you may be asking two different questions.With regard to what you said about your husband dressing as a female in your bedroom, I wonder if you would consider asking him more about this. If you choose to do that, I would suggest that you ask him whether a certain time is a good time... more
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It can be very frustrating being lied to. The one thing that struck me was the sentence he had a alcohol addiction "in the past." Addiction is not something that comes and goes. Once you have addict tendencies they are here to stay. You may be able to fight them off for awhile but the will... more
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As exasperated as you feel, and as obvious it is to you that your husband cares more about drinking than being honest with you, changing this is up to him.Does he care that you're upset with him for drinking more than he can handle?Does he care about you more than drinking?Living with an alcoholic... more
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Hi Los Angeles,So your husband is giving you mixed messages. He says he's willing to cut back on the drinking, but he drinks and hides it. His behaviour is passive aggressive and immature, which puts you into this position of having to act like a disapproving parent. It sounds more like you're... more
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People often project their insecurities onto others. Has she been cheated on prior to your marriage, or has there been infidelity in the marriage? Would she seek therapy for her insecurities, and/or couple’s therapy? Also, something to consider is not to allow someone else’s insecurities... more
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