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Intimacy

Intimacy is linked with feelings of closeness among partners in a relationship. It is usually characterized by love and attachment. These feelings may or may not be connected or confused with sexual... more
Intimacy is linked with feelings of closeness among partners in a relationship. It is usually characterized by love and attachment. These feelings may or may not be connected or confused with sexual feelings. In other relationships, intimacy has more to do with shared moments than sexual interactions. This is not an exact definition, but it seems that intimacy and healthy relationships go hand in hand. Indeed, intimacy is basic in any meaningful relationship: the basis of friendship and one of the foundations of love.
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Questions and Answers

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Keep doing the crossdressing since you like it.Your problem sounds more a matter of timing and reason to tell the girl about it.Not keeping a secret is a good attitude regarding meaningful parts of your life. Usually our relationship partner is someone whom we trust as a safe person to know all... more

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Pamela Suraci
Pamela Suraci
Build on your strengths, grow in your challenge areas and improve your life!

It sounds like you've been living with this uncertainty for those couple years since this happened. The reality is you won't ever "know" - mostly because of the various versions your husband has provided you. Infidelity, though painful, does not have to kill a marriage. Secrecy and dishonesty... more

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Michele Ramey
Michele Ramey
MRTherapy, LLC- Because Help Is One Of A Kind

Most of us trust our guts, or go to someone who can help us to piece the puzzle together, like a therapist. In this case, is that what's important? The knowing that he had it or knowing he had it and how he allowed himself to get into a situation like that? If he did, how do you feel about it? I'm... more

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Todd Schmenk, M.S., M.Ed.
Todd Schmenk, M.S., M.Ed.
AQAL Therapies, Inc.,

This is something I have had to address with individuals often since working with couples is one of my practice's focuses. The answer can depend upon several reasons all which tend to be explored while in session. If you or your counselor utilizes an integral approach, in which one of the main... more

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Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

The numbers you write are low compared to how much sex many other people would be satisfied having.The key is your and your husband's satisfaction with the amount of sex you are having.And, know if there are reasons besides low sex drive that possibly explain this.Knowing the other possibilities... more

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Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

As exasperated as you feel, and as obvious it is to you that your husband cares more about drinking than being honest with you, changing this is up to him.Does he care that you're upset with him for drinking more than he can handle?Does he care about you more than drinking?Living with an alcoholic... more

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Lynda Martens
Lynda Martens
Marriage & Family Therapist, MSc, RP, RMFT

Hi Greenville, I respect that you're owning your own overreactions, and that you want to give your boyfriend the respect he deserves. The truth is that some people cheat, and some don't, and our partners deserve the benefit of the doubt unless they show signs they can't be trusted.The answer here is... more

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Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Love is a deep and nuanced feeling so start to accept that a simple cutting of emotional connection isn't possible.Honor the love you felt for this person. Acknowledgement of your love feelings will most likely help you find a dignified way to accept them while at the same time slowly developing... more

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Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Your question is very meaningful to your relationship.And, the possible reasons are endless.It is definitely a topic which affects both of you. You need to gently ask your boyfriend this question directly. How you ask, how he answers and the discussion or lack of discussion which follows, will... more

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Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Understand the reasons you feel mistrustful. Even though you aren't finding evidence of cheating, your weak sense of faith in your wife's behavior is worth examining bc trust is fundamental to a good relationship.It is possible you don't have faith in yourself to accurately tell whether someone is... more

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.