Intimacy

Ask her to consider your feelings not only her own defensiveness that she is called a whore by you.Clearly since you're writing on a site which offers psychological and emotional support and guidance, you do not consider your gf to be a whore.She may not realize or considered that you are somewhat... more

Do you feel he will do this again, and do you trust him, can you trust him again?.   Would you and he be open to couples’ therapy? There are many variables to consider but asking yourself these questions could give you some clarity. 

What about him do you miss most? What part of those things can you self-generate, give those things to yourself. Working thru the grief of losing this relationship. Perhaps review this video and see what comes up. Also, reviewing your feelings around scarcity- is he the only person who can be a... more

There seems to be two issues at play; your sex drive and the resulting pushing your boyfriend away. Research mirror work, sometimes this technique allows us to get to the root of our issues. You can also practice this in a therapeutic setting if that feels like your next right step. Having control... more

Investigating how holding on to the past serves him and working to forgive the past, even grieve what could have been, while embracing the future. He could if he is open to it see a therapist.  Perhaps he can rewrite (symbolically) the past and project a more positive stance or feeling towards it. 

Normalizing cross-dressing and being open about who you are. Consider if this could be a deal-breaker , which would encompass considering if you want to be with someone who does not accept you for all you are? Also explain your personal reasons and the possible reasons many others crossdress, how... more

This issue could come from any variables. The pressure of being satisfying, or if you have experienced any tension. Do you have any uncomfortable thoughts or is anything from your past coming up? Had you been socialized to believe certain things or did new beliefs come up? What were your... more

Have you said anything to your husband about the way you're feeling?Start with this.Sex is after all, a two person enterprise.If he would like to talk about the way you're feeling, great and wonderful. The two of you already are continuing to grow trust in your communication and relationship.If he... more

The answer lies in what the outcome will be. How will things end if you find out he had sex with a prostitute? Will you leave? Will you try to work things out? The multiple versions are concerning. He seems unable to be truthful and this is damaging your relationship. Before considering marital... more

Sexual desire seems to be straightforward - I like someone and I become aroused at the thoughts of being intimate with them - but that idea does not always take into account other factors. Stress can have a huge effect on our body and how it performs. When we are overstressed, for example, we often... more