Intimacy

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It can be difficult to explore a personal desire, such as cross-dressing, when your partner does not share the same interest. It is important to communicate openly with your partner about this issue and try to discover what makes them uncomfortable with the idea. There are likely many factors at... more
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Men who are married to women but also enjoy sex with other men may face many conflicting feelings. In some cases, they may feel guilty or ashamed for having these desires, while in others, they may be confused about them. It is important for any person with these feelings to understand that it is... more
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Hi Los Angeles,So your husband is giving you mixed messages. He says he's willing to cut back on the drinking, but he drinks and hides it. His behaviour is passive aggressive and immature, which puts you into this position of having to act like a disapproving parent. It sounds more like you're... more
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As exasperated as you feel, and as obvious it is to you that your husband cares more about drinking than being honest with you, changing this is up to him.Does he care that you're upset with him for drinking more than he can handle?Does he care about you more than drinking?Living with an alcoholic... more
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I've been in this situation before and have some insight to share with you. In my experience, he was lying and trying to cover it up. By pushing you to std testing, he's distracting you so he can shift the guilt he feels and blame it on you. In a guilty man's mind I believe he's thinking-...if I... more
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The answer lies in what the outcome will be. How will things end if you find out he had sex with a prostitute? Will you leave? Will you try to work things out? The multiple versions are concerning. He seems unable to be truthful and this is damaging your relationship. Before considering marital... more
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Trust was broken. Boundaries were crossed. You two are trying to make it work - and it's possible, but it's going to take some time, and some serious work and commitment. It's impossible to know if it was an honest mistake and he forgot, or if it was a lie. You asked "should I be upset?" Chances... more
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This is such a good question, and there's lots to explore. This "empty" feeling - if you were to stay with it, not trying to change it, just trying to understand it better - what does it tell you? Are there thoughts that come with it? Fears/concerns? How does it feel in your body? Is that a familiar... more
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Because the acrobatics and excitement of sex has nothing to do with the meaning of deeper emotional attachment to another person with whom we are in a relationship.Try to distinguish between your feelings of excitement from the novel sexual arrangement and what you feel is necessary in order to feel... more
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This is often a tough conversation, and most try to avoid it. It's understandable, and yet, it's a good conversation to have. How else would you know what's going on? I would probably start not by expressing your frustration, but by asking him what's going on for him. Is he happy with once a month... more
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