Family Conflict

A mediated safe talk session between. You and your sister.

Then, you and your husband have a mediated safe talk.  So both hear what you feel in the respective relationships. 

Possibly the last step is a mediated  safe talk with sister, husband and youcoversation, in the future.

We can do a lot of work to recover from the betrayal trauma. We can heal - we are resilient and strong. We can forgive. We can move on and let go. We continue with our lives. And yet, we are human. It hurts, A LOT. Even after 20 years! We are designed to remember everything that caused us pain - in... more

First thing that you must realize is that most people only post the "best parts" of their lives on Facebook, some people even go so far as to make their lives seem better or more interesting and post mostly false views of their life. Facebook is watered down, candied version of our life, you put on... more

Try to think of his close relationship with his mother in a good way. It means that they have a positive family structure which can transfer down to your own family if you have one together in the future. Despite your boyfriend having a good relationship with his mother, it will never be equal to... more

First I want to thank you for sharing your story, I imagine that it might feel really tough to question things like how much you gave up while feeling unhappy and trapped. Self-loathing is an overwhelming and heavy thing to feel especially in the face of just wanting to appreciate and enjoy your... more

The sum total of your value and worth does not get to be decided or measured by how your mother feels about you. Ideally, she would be supportive but that does not seem to be the case. Providing yourself with love, acceptance, validation, and knowing your worth and that you are valid despite her... more

It sounds really difficult to know that your daughter may be "choosing" her dad over you, perhaps I can help by saying her intense emotional reactions towards you actually acknowledge how much safer and connected she feels towards you. We tend to have big emotions around those we care for most. I... more

Hi Zionsville. It's so sweet that you have a special relationship with your brother. You will ALWAYS have that, you know? He's doing what's natural at his age...spreading his wings and looking for love. You may be heading into that zone soon too, but I get that it's weird that he's there before you... more

How are you measuring whether or not your dad understands your wish?Your dad understanding your wish does not mean he will necessarily follow through with what you want.Based on what you describe about your relationship to the woman in question, your discomfort with the idea of your dad marrying... more

Not liking someone is not cruel - even if it is a family member. There is nothing wrong with you for not liking your sister. Some people are fortunate to have siblings that they get along with really well, other don't. We all have different personalities and we are not going to like everyone - even... more