Counseling Fundamentals

Oh, crying in therapy is very normal! I have a stack of kleenex boxes in my office. Cry away, therapist are very used to it:) First time being in therapy is scary, but you'll soon know if you are a good match. 

9 Ways Crying May Benefit Your HealthDetoxifies the body. Reflex tears clear debris, like smoke and dust, from your eyes. ...Helps self-soothe. Crying may be one of your best mechanisms to self-soothe. ...Dulls pain. ...Improves mood. ...Rallies support. ...Helps you recover from grief. ...Restores... more

People do cry in therapy sometimes, but it's not at all necessary to cry in order for most kinds of therapy to be helpful. When you start counseling you don't yet know your counselor very well, so it's normal to keep your feelings in check until you feel comfortable and a bit more relaxed with your... more

Oh that is too bad not sure is it because of the one you are in therapy with or the counselor ?  What feelings are coming up and thoughts in your mind first to start.  Try and put them down and look at what is on paper.  If you need to maybe do a group first then individual then couple.  

Each client brings their own style they like to a coaching or counseling relationship. When I counseled and coached military I learned to relate to what style of coaching they seek. Some were better at the Drill Sergeant style of coaching, or a liberal style, integrative, humanistic, progressive... more

Absolutely! It is very normal to cry during a therapy session. During a session lots of different feelings will come up. When sadness and grief show up you are going to feel them in your body and crying is our way of expressing them. Sometimes we even cry when we feel anger or joy. Your therapist... more

One of the first things you should feel with a therapist is a safe and non-judgemental space. As a therapist, my number one goal is to make my clients feel comfortable with sharing the darkest parts of their life. The next thing you should recognize is the therapist challenging you to think beyond... more

Unfortunately, finding "the right" therapist isn't as easy as picking a name from a list provided by your insurance company or based on Google search results. The process begins with doing some research. Online directories such as Psychology Today and CounselChat are a good jumping-off point. Start... more

The first step in beginning the counseling process is to do some homework. I recommend that clients make some quick notes about what they believe are the core issues negatively impacting their functioning, the qualities they are looking for in a therapist, and what are some goals that you have for... more

I've never heard of someone having "too many issues" for therapy to be effective. A competent therapist will assist you in identifying the root causes of your problems and treat those first. If the underlying issues are addressed, your various symptoms should improve. For example, a history of... more