Counseling Fundamentals

Not just you but everyone is different. Some people need to cry and others don’t. 

I can't tell you how many times I've heard people talk about terrible things that have happened to them yet they don't shed a tear. Is that normal? Well, yes, but not exactly healthy. It's normal because they've been conditioned this way. If you feel shame around crying, then you most likely... more

Therapy is a safe place where we address a host of different issues. Many times things come up that we may have been too busy to address or we have become skilled in avoiding. We usually avoid or push away painful experiences. When we open ourselves to the healing process of therapy these painful... more

I think the right therapist will lead you toward answers that work. “Right” simply means they are helping you accomplish your goals for counseling.If I understand the question, training your therapist should really just mean being transparent about what you’re looking for. Most therapists will offer... more

Such a good question! Sometimes, clients will feel like they are not connecting with their therapist and will put it on themselves. In truth, the bond between therapist and client is the #1 predictor of positive outcomes in therapy. Ask yourself these questions: does it feel like this person can... more

I would look up therapists who speak to what you are going through on their website or directory listing and seem to align with your values (some people want a therapist of the similar faith, gender, or cultural background). I'm not saying that they should have these traits but for some people that... more

Finding the right therapist is a lot like looking for a primary care doctor or family physician. You may have more than one in your life and also, if it does not work out, you can find a provider that is a better fit. You want to find someone who you believe will respond to your needs and help you... more

Thank you for sharing your experiences and for being vulnerable. The answer to your question is no, you don't have too many issues to address in counseling. Therapy is designed to provide you with that safe and non-judgmental space, where you can share everything and anything you wish you share and... more

Absolutely not.  I strongly recommending working on one issue/need at a time.  In therapy you will set smart goals and objectives that will help you reach your goals.  I see you as a survivor and not a victim.  Best wishes to you.

You can never have too many issues to address I'm counseling! In fact, I wish more people would come in sooner than later (or not at all) but I always say better late than never. I think you will discover how everything you're experiencing makes sense when you connect the dots with your therapist... more