Behavioral Change

There could be many reasons but often people feel validated when they are in a relationship, the need to be in a relationship can be related to a belief of unlovability which often stems from our childhood. The relationship sort of soothes this temporarily and the others interest or desire helps... more

Over the years, it has been shown that cognitive behavioral therapy is an effective method for assisting individuals in recognizing and altering the behaviors that they engage in. However, despite the fact that everyone has the potential to benefit from treatment, it seems that some individuals... more

One step towards change would be to decide why you are hitting your head. Is it a sensory sensation, you like the way it feels, are you trying to “hammer out” thoughts and feelings you do not want to think or feel? Also consider other ways to alleviate that desire, the feeling, the result you get... more

You can't convince anyone to seek help, unfortunately. It has to be her decision. You could, however, have a candid and caring talk with your mother to express your concerns to her and to check in on how she is feeling. At the root of OCD can be feelings of helplessness, unsafety, and aloneness... more

Hi there. It's great you are able to realize there are other issues going on with someone who feels possessive. At the root of it is fear. Fear of losing someone, fear of being alone, fear of not being good enough. All those fears can lead to low self-esteem and feeling like you have to control... more

Hi Kansas, I feel strongly that the help of a professional therapist is important here. Feelings are never wrong, but it can help to understand where they come from and talk to someone who can teach you healthy ways to cope. Self-harm is not the answer to managing those emotions you feel in your... more

That sounds like something you would benefit from seeing a therapist for. There are some hypotheses I can think of. 1. Maybe someone really did say something but you were too distracted and it didn't register until moments later. 2. You could have anxiety that others are judging you or talking... more

You are valid. It is very unnerving when thoughts control your life. One way to combat them is to figure out whose voice the words are said in. Oftentimes people say things to us and it stays with us, and it is not often true. We let others’ opinions penetrate our brains and live rent-free... more

It is commendable that you have acknowledged the fact that you have this fear and that you want to overcome it! 👏🏽👏🏽 Micro steps, doing a little bit each day to get closer to your goal of overcoming it. Working thru a list of mini-steps that you can accomplish until you are fully immersed in... more