Behavioral Change

You are valid. It is very unnerving when thoughts control your life. One way to combat them is to figure out whose voice the words are said in. Oftentimes people say things to us and it stays with us, and it is not often true. We let others’ opinions penetrate our brains and live rent-free... more

When my clients say they are having a similar experience I teach them two main coping skills. The first is to simply say, out loud, STOP! The reasoning behind this is that we cannot talk and have an audible thought at the same time. This will only work in the short term and the rebound thoughts from... more

One step towards change would be to decide why you are hitting your head. Is it a sensory sensation, you like the way it feels, are you trying to “hammer out” thoughts and feelings you do not want to think or feel? Also consider other ways to alleviate that desire, the feeling, the result you get... more

It is commendable that you have acknowledged the fact that you have this fear and that you want to overcome it! 👏🏽👏🏽 Micro steps, doing a little bit each day to get closer to your goal of overcoming it. Working thru a list of mini-steps that you can accomplish until you are fully immersed in... more

Since you wrote that you noticed a change in your throwing away urge when you changed with which parent you lived, would you feel that throwing away things is connected to wanting to be done with certain areas of influence with either parent?Play in your mind with the metaphor of "throwing away" and... more

Wow, you got hit with some serious stuff all at once. Work, relationships, and housing/security are major needs for us and to lose all that at once has got to affect you. When things go wrong, it is natural for us to look for blame----and the easiest person for us to blame is ourselves. Put that... more

Glad you are reaching out here!There are two types of self-harm: suicidal and non-suicidal. A lot of people I see and have seen engage in self-harm just to manage emotional dysregulation, but not to end their lives. Self-injury actually does a great job at helping us to manage really intense... more

Be aware of the circumstances surrounding the mood swings. This will help you discover clues as to your sensitivities, whether these are specific interactions, specific people in your life, specific situations which activate the mood swings.The more you understand what creates the mood swings, the... more

Maybe you need more motivation to avoid eating the junk in your house.Also, if you are the only person in your household who eats healthy, eating differently from everyone else may seem less fun.Try creating your own world of a healthy culture through social media because this may give you a sense... more

From your detailed awareness of how you developed and are utilizing Solace, unless you face some unexpected and altering physical incident to your brain, such as physical head trauma, drug induced brain change, other medical condition which affects your brain, you show a strong knowledge that she is... more