Shelly Kessinger

www.friendswoodmarriagecounseling.com
Licensed Professional Counselor
9 years in practice
  • Suite 114B
  • 1414 S Friendswood Drive
  • Friendswood,TX

About Shelly Kessinger

My expertise is working with couples and relationships. I work on increasing healthy communication, teaching communication skills, and reducing conflict. I like to get to the root of the problems and work on finding solutions to your frequent arguments. My Bachelors degree is from the University of Texas at Austin, and my Masters of Education in Counseling degree is from the University of Houston.

Answers  (6)

My answer is yes, you should tell her because you have a child with her. She is the mother of your son, and this new baby would be his half sister. I think telling her is mature and appropriate. Usually procrastinating just makes it worse.Another thing to consider. Would you want her to tell you if... more

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I think giving yourself the space to realize that this was a significant relationship and it really had an impact on you. I think you should honor that relationship and then talk about it to someone. The more you try to not think of it, the more you will think of it. I think you should instead, say... more

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You already are doing that! You are reaching out (virtually still counts!). You are accepting your past, you are not denying what happened to you, you are talking about the past. You are already doing a great job of starting this journey. You get your life back by doing things differently.I would... more

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Ouch. It's really hard to deal with a spouse that isn't taking you seriously. In this case, I would plan for and schedule a time to talk with him about this. I would tell him that you need about 30 minutes to talk to him with minimal interruptions about something that is important to you. Schedule a... more

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I would focus on YOU right now. We cannot control him, his actions, his love, or his decisions. But we can work on you. Think about a few things: What do you want? What do you love about him? What made you two separate? What do you think about being in a relationship where your partner does not love... more

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Unfortunately, you will never know the true answer. This is really frustrating to hear, but you will never 100% be able to guarantee that he has given you the truth. So if you can, work on accepting that, breathing through that,He may not fully remember, he may have lied to you in the past or he is... more

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