Laurel Fay

Marriage and Relationship Expert
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
15 years in practice

About Laurel Fay

I'm supposed to write in this box about myself - my expertise, education, training, etc. But seriously - I know you don't care, and I don't blame you one bit. You just want to feel good, have a better relationship or get a question answered. That's what I'd care about too if I was you. So I can bore you with all my years of training and credentials and degrees and try to convince you I know what I'm talking about; or I can just tell you I can most likely help you. I will give my sincere and dedicated best to help get you the relief you need and the relationships you want and deserve. Know that you are not alone, and you don't have to stay stuck where you are - there's always hope. I specialize in holding the hope for my clients when they can't, until they can...and I have the best job in the world. (Okay, that was a little about me. I'm done.)

Answers  (3)

I'm sure you've tried to talk to your husband, but if not, could you? Have a conversation with him about him and his life, his work, etc. See if he relaxes and opens up to you, even a little bit. Don't try to have a heavy conversation or even unburden yourself to him during this first conversation... more

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.

It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in... more

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.

You're not a sociopath - you're traumatized. Shutting off feelings is our brain's automatic way of protecting us when something bad happens and we just can't deal with any more pain. It's temporary - which is both good and bad news, because after the numb goes away and your brain decides you're... more

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.