What's the best way to handle my spouse's narcissism and bipolar disorder?

He is always telling me our fights are only and all my fault, he bashes me to our young child, and he is addicted to a few substances.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Strengthen your own belief in your right to a decent life and respect of who you are.

From the brief description you write, your husband has very limited capacity to recognize how others feel and even less capacity to empathize with the person.

The best you can do is convince yourself of your own worth and associate with others who believe similarly about your qualities.

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The behaviors you describe are boundary violations.  You can not change your spouse, but you can respond to his behaviors in ways that protect your boundaries and ensure your safety.  This is very hard to do without support.  Finding a therapist who understands the dynamics of abusive relationships may be helpful.  If you are not ready to do this, I recommend the book "Boundaries" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.  It's a great resource for helping one recognize boundary violations and learning how to respond to them in ways that are constructive!

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.

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