I always fear that people are judging me
I know this fear doesn't make sense. How can I overcome it?
Your fear may not seem "rational" but that doesn't mean it doesn't make sense! There's 100% a reason for why this fear happens for you. Most everyone has this fear because we are social animals and need to care what others think of us sometimes. When it becomes a bigger issue is when it keeps you from enjoying your life or interferes with your functioning.
Do you think it may have to do with uncertainty of what others may be thinking of you? Or that people will ultimately reject you? Sometimes when we don't know what others think, we assume they judge. This is especially true if you've experienced direct judgment or bullying in your past, or if a significant parent or caregiver in your life made you feel shame.
When I have a client that often fears others are judging them, I have them list out the evidence they see to support that. What evidence is there to tell you that someone is judging you? If you take something as evidence, also ask yourself if they behave the same with other people. When we fear judgment, we often micro-analyze and misinterpret people's body language to mean something it doesn't.
It can also help to make a mental or actual list of other possibilities. Most people are concerned about what others are thinking of them, so it's possible people you interact with are wondering what you think of them. It's also possible they are judging you positively--what are some things in this category that people have told you about how they see you? Sometimes taking feedback from people closest to you whom you trust can be the most accurate representation of how others may see you.
Counseling could be a great option as well because I guarantee these fears will show up in sessions and that's GOOD. It gives you a chance to process them with someone who will help you understand these fears and may even give you genuine feedback about how they perceive you (at the right time). It can be very healing!
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Stop caring about what you imagine people are thinking about you!
Really this is the simple and complicated answer to feel better about your situation.
Maybe someone is judging you, maybe someone isn't judging you.
Until the person tells you directly what they don't like about you, there's nothing you can do.
It is okay that the fear doesn't make sense, most fears don't make sense.
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