How do I deal with bullying at school?
I've been bullied for years and the teachers have done nothing about it. I haven't been diagnosed with depression, but i have been extremely sad for years.
How can I deal with being bullied at school when the teachers won't help?
That's a very difficult situation that you are in. But you are not alone. I have several school-aged clients who find little to no assistance from their teachers at their schools regarding bullying.
There are a few options that are available to you to help deal with being bullied at school. One option that I would suggest is for you to talk to your support network. Friends and family can sometimes be good sources of support. Another option would be to speak with us about your counselor, if you have one. And third, there are some excellent online sources of support regarding the bullying at school (www.stopbullying.org).
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I used to do sessions in the middle school where I live and it's an epidemic. Many schools struggle to address these problems and leave people like you feeling alone and lost. I'm so sorry you have to go through that.
Do they physically hurt you? Not that emotional pain isn't just as worse, but sometimes adults act quicker when someone is assaulting you. You can also report them if you feel comfortable (enough) to. Police involvement may be suitable if you fear for your physical safety.
No matter what you choose, there are some things you can do. One is very hard but also really effective long-term---don't react to them at all. I don't know if this is one person or a number of people, but they are getting a reward every time they bully you--your reaction. That does not mean their actions are your fault or that you share any of the responsibility for how they treat you. Their actions are their poor choice, never yours...that's why you are reaching out for help! When you stop giving them a reaction, "comeback", etc., they may try to step it up in order to get a response from you. If you continue to ignore them, after a time bullies tend to stop the behavior because they are no longer being rewarded for being mean. If they start physically hurting you or hurt you worse than before, I would really challenge you to talk to someone so you are at least safe.
If you don't feel like that's possible or it turns out to be unhelpful, reaching out to people you trust or asking your parents for help with finding a counselor could be beneficial for you. Being bullied can make you feel really alone, so it's very important to have someone to talk to that you trust. Sounds like you have been needing this for a long time.
I'm not sure if you are in middle school or high school, but some schools offer activities or clubs that focus on building certain skills or interests. Sometimes this can help you find your people when you feel like you don't belong anywhere. It can also help to make you more confident in something you do, which can reflect as confidence to others.
It's also important to ask yourself when you have felt strong in the past or recently. What gives you strength? Is it a hobby, a friend, a pet? Or is it what you know about yourself, like a value you have or your morals? Even turning your awful experiences into something meaningful (e.g., creating an anti-bullying group, standing up for others, etc.) can contribute to the feeling of strength or resilience.
You are already seeking help at a young age, which is amazing and also hard. There's some part of you that is fighting for yourself, so whatever you do next know that that exists in you!
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Teachers don't do anything about it due to liability of the school (school and faculty would get sued and have claims made against them); wouldn't expect much out of them;
1) Realize that bullies accuse others of the very crimes they are doing themselves;
2) Bullies aren't actually all that weak as others have said, but do not stand up against constant pressure of truth-telling;
3) Research yourself, or pay someone, to locate the bully's mother and father, and let them know what you have experienced (by way of text, phone, letter, etc.);
4) Access your own mother and father and tell them what you have experienced, and see if they will help;
Long term, society must return to a more masculine way of being such that these sorts of troubles are dealt with at the home :)
Learn to be man/woman, and watch the magic happen.
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To be bullied is very painful.
I'm glad you know the bullies are doing the wrong thing and whatever they are telling you is pure meanness.
Depending on how independent you feel, why not tell either your classroom teacher or schedule an appointment with the vice principal?
Bullying other students is taken very seriously in some states and schools are expected to address the bullying until the victimized student feels safe.
If you hesitate to do this on your own, then would you ask either of your parents or even a friend of yours who is also in the school, to report the problem?
In case you are afraid the bullies will retaliate for reporting them, then tell this to whatever school authority you decide to ask for help.
You're entitled to be protected by your school.
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