How can I get over my fear of public embarrassment?
A lot of times, I avoid situations where I am to meet new people because I have a fear of embarrassing myself. I often avoid large groups of people, like parties, because I think they all constantly judge me.
Hello, and thank you for your question. First, I want you to know that you are certainly not alone on this issue. Everyone, at some point in time, has a fear of public embarrassment. But for many people, this fear can become so awful that it begins to have a real negative impact on their quality of life. They will try to avoid any situation that they even THINK will cause them embarrassment or anxiety. Escaping a possible embarrassing moment by avoiding or isolating may cause some relief at first, but then many times the avoidance will eventually lead to loneliness, isolation, and even despair. By avoiding, we can also miss out on things that make us feel alive and bring enjoyment.
There are many self-help books that offer advice on this issue. You can do an internet search, and I recommend reading the reviews of the book. That is great way to find out if others have found the book helpful.
Another option is to seek a counselor to help you with this fear. I would recommend a counselor who specializes in helping people who have anxiety or social anxiety. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is a good choice for helping with anxiety, but there are many others.
The truth is that anxiety and fear of embarrassing ourselves is not something that any of us will ever "get over", but we can learn to respond to those feelings differently.
A colleague may offer some other advice, as well.. Be well
Robin Landwehr, DBH, LPC, NCC
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Why not accept and tolerate that you naturally are a shy person who doesn't like large groups?
This is not necessarily something to get over if it is part of who you are.
People have the capacity to judge others regardless of whether the group is large or small.
If you aren't afraid of being judged in small groups then study the factors which allow you to feel safe in small groups.
Possibly you can generalize your findings to large group venues.
If you try the and aren't successful, then likely you simply aren't naturally someone who cares for large group settings.
Not everything a person doesn't like is a symptom of something is wrong w the person!
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