How would I know if I have the right therapist?

You'll know that you  have the right therapist if you feel understood, heard, and connected with her/him.  Research supports that no matter what training the therapist has, the therapeutic relationship is the best predictor of success in therapy.  Not every therapist is going to be a good fit for every client or presenting problem.  Therapists are human, so their personalities, life experiences, communication styles, and other aspects that make all humans unique will play a role in a particular client feeling connected and understood by a particular therapist.  So, you shouldn't have to "train" your therapist, but "try" her/him out instead.  It's totally okay and normal to try different therapists before you find the right one for you.  We understand that and do not take offense.