How do I get over "imposter syndrome"?
I'm dealing with imposter syndrome in graduate school. I know that by all accounts I am a phenomenal graduate student, and that I am well-published. I am well liked by students and faculty alike. And yet I cannot shake the feeling that I'm going to be found out as a fraud.
How can I get over this feeling?
What do you think is at the root of your impostor syndrome? In my work with clients with ADHD, autism, giftedness, and performance anxiety, I notice that there are commonalities in reasons for impostor syndrome, like perfectionism, low self-esteem, internalized ableism, trauma history, or masking / overcompensating for psychosocial differences. At the core of impostor syndrome is not feeling okay with oneself, feeling unacceptable, unlikeable, unworthy, unlovable, incapable, or inadequate in some way. As someone with OCD, I'm learning to recognize my impostor syndrome as intrusive thoughts. If you can start identifying that the discouraging thoughts about yourself are just thoughts and that they're not true, then this can help you to take more time and awareness to observe your thinking patterns instead of automatically believing them and drowning in them. Keeping a thought journal can really help you identify which thoughts are intrusive and when so that you can begin to learn not to allow them to have power over you.
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