Am I being picky when it comes to my boyfriend?

I've been in a relationship for almost a year, and I absolutely trust my boyfriend. He treats me nice, checks on me, and tells me sweet things. However, when it comes to making life decisions, I feel he is very immature. I try to talk things out so we can compromise or make sound decisions together, but he lacks any ideas and prefers to just go with anything to avoid fighting. As far as dates, if I don't say anything, plan it, or have money to chip in, we will not go. I feel like I put in a lot of work supporting and sometimes spoiling, and all I get is a loyal man who will not cheat and say sweet things on occasion.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Well, then your decision is whether you want to stay in this type of relationship or not.

One point to keep in mind is this.

Just because he's not telling you his opinions doesn't mean he doesn't have any opinions.

In the long run t is always easier to talk with someone about their differences from our point of view than to be someone who doesn't tell you what is in their mind.

Short term it seems easy to have someone agreeable.

Long term someone who doesn't tell you their thoughts and who disagrees with you, may potentially go about their true wishes in hidden ways.

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