I over endulge when I drink alcohol and feel extremely guilty about it the next day

I'm a female in my mid 20s. Lately I tend to over drink and I've become a very angry drunk.

In the past, I have even cheated on my boyfriend while I was under the influence of alcohol.

But now, even if I don't do anything wrong and don't embarrass myself, I still feel really guilty after a night of drinking. I don't understand why I'm feeling this way. Does this mean I have a problem?

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Usually when someone asks if they have a problem, they believe they do have a problem!

The first step is to understand your own theory and definition as to what problem you feel you have.  

Some possibilities are feeling unhappy in the relationship to your boyfriend, not having enough discussion between the two of you, not feeling cared about by your boyfriend, not liking your boyfriend.

Did you grow up in a family in which the grownups drank to the point of excess at the times they felt stressed?

Family modeling of how to handle problems may have left you no knowing how to handle stress except to drink to excess.

Ask yourself what it is you feel guilty of doing?

The guilt may point you in a good direction if it is your sense of self-esteem telling you to find better ways of managing your life.

Do you drink alone or together with friends?

Try defining your specific reasons for drinking because this is the first step to know how to handle the situation differently.

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