Why can't I let myself trust my partner?

I've been with my partner for 4 years. She's given me no reason not to trust her. But lately I've been overreacting a lot when she's just doing normal things. I think it's triggering my bad past relationships.

How can I get rid of these insecurities and be more trusting with her?

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Two paths are possible.

You're not overreacting and instead are genuinely sensing that something feels unsettled within your girlfriend.

You are overreacting because you have difficulty accepting how safe and loving your relationship is with this person.

The only way to find out is to start conversations with your girlfriend on how you feel.

This will allow new light to open an answer as to the truth.

Once you know what truly is going on between the two of you, your self-trust naturally will grow stronger. 

Self-trust will give you an accurate read of what and whom you are able to safely trust.

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