How do I fix or leave a bad relationship?

My ex-boyfriend and I have been back and forth for over a year now. He's in his late 20s, divorced for like five years now with two kids. He has a lot of narcissistic behaviors. He lies and cheats, but I love him. I've tried to date other people, but I always go back to him.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Try to figure out why you go back to him.

Love is never enough reason to sustain a relationship.

Though your love may feel and be very real, the fact of the frequent breaks show that some quality or dynamic within the relationship is not satisfying enough to sustain the two of you.

Always people are better off with some time separation between relationships.  This gives a chance to know what you were looking for and din't find in the ended relationship.

Dating other people before you have time to understand what did and didn't work well in a relationship, will make the new dates seem like a lacking comparison to the first guy.

Also, lying and cheating are very demoralizing.  Maybe your higher self tries to take you out from this situation and you first need to strengthen your spirit in order to follow your own best interest.

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