How do I repair my friendship?

My best friend and I were pranking her friend, and I told her to tell him that she likes him. She said no, but I forced her. After she told him, he told her that he likes her too. Their friendship is ruined because of me. She won't forgive me, and I feel really guilty. I feel like crying.

Lauren Ostrowski, MA, LPC, NCC, DCC, CCTP
Lauren Ostrowski, MA, LPC, NCC, DCC, CCTP
I tailor my therapeutic approach to each client's strengths and goals

This takes time. I don't know how long it has been, but perhaps if your friend is willing to discuss other things with you for a little while, you could discuss this at some point in the future.

Hopefully the true intentions will become apparent (in the idea that it was a prank).

Also, I encourage you to look at how this is affecting you and how you feel about yourself as well. If it was meant to be a joke and it did not work, that is not entirely your fault.

I wonder how you could forgive yourself for what happened?

  • Are you able to seek what you meant to do compared to what actually happened?
  • Do you notice that not everything that has happened here is in your control?
  • Do you recognize that even though you would like things to be better, if your friend is not ready or willing, you are trying to do your part to make it right?
  • Maybe everyone who is/was involved in this can talk together all at the same time to set straight what is truth and what was misunderstood.
  • I wonder if you can think of your own positive attributes (for example: honesty, compassion, trustworthiness, friendship, good listener, caring) and look at what truly exists within you rather than just one your friend is able to see right now.

This can be really difficult for multiple reasons, not the least of which is that it involves more than just you, so it's important to focus on the idea that you can ask these other people who were involved to discuss it, but that is ultimately up to them.

Best wishes for looking at the positive parts of yourself and your friendships.

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