Should I end it?

How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend?

Robin K. Schnitzler
Robin K. Schnitzler
Couples reclaiming connection!

That is such a hard place to be. Usually when we ask that question, we are struggling with weighing the "good" from the "bad." Here are some questions to ask yourself:

1. Do I like myself when I'm with my partner, or do I struggle to feel positive about myself with them?

2. Do I feel like I show up in the world as a better person, because my partner is in my life?

3. Do I feel like our relationship is reciprocal - that is, are we both giving and taking in some ways?

4. Am I attached to this PERSON, or am I having trouble with ending a relationship in which I had a lot of hopes and dreams? 

5. Am I staying in this relationship because I am afraid of being alone or feeling judged by my partner or others?

Sometimes it is enough to take stock on our own or with the support of friends and family. Other times, it can be helpful to work with a therapist to untangle what is at the heart of feeling stuck, in order to move forward. I wish you all the best.

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.

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