I feel insecure, on edge, and drink too much

I feel insecure in my life. I don't think my wife truly wants our relationship even though she says she does. I have turned to drinking to help relieve my repressed stress about this and other issues. I have had a drinking problem for a few years. I feel the reason I drink is not just because I like to, but because I have lately been on edge. I’ve been very oddly emotional when watching movies that I have been watching for years. I’m paranoid about driving on main roads. I’m very jumpy at the slightest noises.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Sorry hearing about the big amount of stress which you are feeling at this time.

Since a lot of your stress is directed to uncertainty of whether your wife is happy being with you, would you consider continuing the conversation with her about your understanding of her answer to you?

Your observation that she says one thing and behaves in a different way, is meaningful.

Bringing your point to her attention would at the very least demonstrate her interest in showing and explaining her viewpoint about you.

Basically, you'd be expecting her to care about you and how she handles herself with this question, may clarify what you're trying to find out.

The good news about your relationship with alcohol, is that you realize you're overdoing it.

From what you write, the emotional pain and helplessness you feel currently, seem too much to know about all at once.

One possibility is to accept your feelings of hurt and insecurity.  This is the first step of working with them.   If they start feeling overwhelming, then maybe too, you can distract yourself for a while from the intensity by engaging in an activity that is not self-harming.

After all, you are the most important person in your life, so keep yourself safe and healthy!

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