My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do

I am in my early 20s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.

My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?

Angela Clark
Angela Clark
Being a mom is the hardest job there will ever be!

One of the biggest issues emerging adults face while living with their parents is boundaries. It's important to establish strong boundaries. Yes, you are living under her roof and therefore have to follow her rules. It's possible that your parents may still view you as a child. Yes, you're an adult now but it's hard for them to stop parenting, despite you being an adult. Nevertheless, you can work on boundaries with them. Pick a convenient time for all of you to sit down and talk. You'll want to stay calm and avoid arguments or anger as you address your concerns with them. Try to express your concerns without hurting your parents' feelings. Give them a chance to respond and ask questions. The key is to let them know that you're not comfortable with some of their rules. Gently remind them that you are an adult and respect their opinions, but ultimately you're responsible for living your life.

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