How do I make my relationship with my girlfriend better?

She's busy because her mom makes her clean all the time and go out places with her family. We don't talk much because of it. Also, we have little fights. We want to work it out but we don't know how.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Maybe your girlfriend feels torn in her emotions between loyalty toward her family and toward investing herself in a relationship.

There are so many "maybes", that the best way to strengthen your relationship is to ask your girlfriend if she feels any pressure from her family to avoid involving herself with you.

If the answer is "no", then continue to talk with each other as to what would make you each feel more secure with one another.

Also, more simply, are the  two of you able to resolve the "little fights"?

Differences of opinion are normal between two people, even to the point of each person feeling they are the only one who knows the correct answer.

As long as each one of you has the goodwill to give a little, then the fights are a healthy way to respect and care about each other.

If the fights are about the same topic which repeats itself, then there are strong differences between the two of you, including the possibility that her family places and she is willing to accept, some obstacle to this relationship.

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