How can I learn to not shut down and say what's wrong with me?

When I get talked to by my dad or stepmom, or if I'm in trouble, I will begin to cry and not say what's wrong with me. When my dad or stepmom ask what is wrong, I never know the answers or the words to put together what is actually wrong with me.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Maybe you need more time to reflect and organize your thoughts.

Try to figure out what would make you feel more relaxed about talking to your dad or stepmom.

Also its possible you simply don't feel safe around either of them and so intuitively realize you're better off not talking with them about a delicate matter.

Depending on whether you trust talking to dad and stepmom, you may simply wish to excuse yourself from speaking about yourself.

There's no good reason to be heartfelt with people whom you don't feel are willing to accept or understand who you are.

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