How to get over somebody?

Our relationship ended about 7 years ago, but don't know how to let go. How can I get over that person and move on?

Shelly Kessinger
Shelly Kessinger
www.friendswoodmarriagecounseling.com

I think giving yourself the space to realize that this was a significant relationship and it really had an impact on you. I think you should honor that relationship and then talk about it to someone. 

The more you try to not think of it, the more you will think of it. I think you should instead, say "thank you" to that relationship. Thank you for showing you what qualities you like, what you desire. Maybe even come up with a list of what that specific relationship did for you. After you say "thank you" to that relationship then it may be time to say goodbye. 

You obviously want to get over that person, so figure out why you want to get over them. Why did it not work out? What negative parts of the relationship do you keep forgetting to think about. Oftentimes, people glamorize the past. So for your goodbye part of this phase, I would focus on the negative parts of the relationship. You can also work on emotionally saying goodbye to that time in your life. You are probably different than you were 7 years ago, and to be honest, they are probably different too.

I know it sounds weird. But I would recommend that you mentally say "thank you" and "goodbye" to that relationship.

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