My husband yells “enough” when I tell him he needs to change

That phrase makes me crazy. It happens anytime I point out something to my husband that he needs to change, such as looking up from his iPad long enough for me to tell him the grandbaby almost pulled the shelf unit over or explaining to him that I got all the things he needs to bake a pie. Another example is when he opens the front door, the dog runs out if he doesn't pick him up. Over and over again, he lets the dog run out, and I am afraid he will get hit by a car.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

I empathize with your feeling "crazy" hearing your husband yell "enough" in response to you wanting to make a point to him.

When the immediate situation has calmed down,  have you ever told him that this upsets you?  

Is it possible he simply is not aware that you feel upset by how he talks to you?

Keep in mind too that what you believe your husband must change, may not agree with his opinion on what he needs to change.

A helpful starting place for the two of you to discuss once the immediate situation has calmed down, is what you each feel would have been a reasonable way of handling the situation that just happened.

By learning more about how the other person thinks and feels, it will be easier to know what to expect form each other.

Even if you disagree about what is best, knowing that there are differences between you may make living with them easier to accept, or at least not be surprised and startled by them.

Sending good luck to both of you!

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