How can I learn to be content and at peace?

I recently broke up with my boyfriend After being together for over 4 years. I truly believe I did the right thing, but omehow being single now has made me very needy and unsure of myself.

I am seeing someone casually and I am losing my mind with anxiety about how he feels about me and this need for validation.

How can I learn to be content and at peace with myself regardless of my career, relationship status, etc?

Mayra Vasquez, LMFTA
Mayra Vasquez, LMFTA
Individual, Couple, & Family Therapist

How can I learn to be content and at peace?

I recently broke up with my boyfriend After being together for over 4 years. I truly believe I did the right thing, but omehow being single now has made me very needy and unsure of myself.

I am seeing someone casually and I am losing my mind with anxiety about how he feels about me and this need for validation.

How can I learn to be content and at peace with myself regardless of my career, relationship status, etc?



Thank you for sharing your story and question. I would like to take a moment to validate the effort and awareness it takes to be able to recognize the emotional and mental space where you currently find yourself. Aiming how to learn to be content and at peace is a beautiful goal that is also fulfilling and reintegrating. 

 

Navigating the ins and outs of a “break-up” can feel incredibly intense and often, at times, groundless. I have had clients describing such experiences and emotions as feeling so much inner conflict that even noticing the action of whether they are on their feet or sitting down at any given moment can quickly become confusing and distressing. 

 

The mind can be and feel like it is on a constant merry-go-round and rollercoaster with the sole aim to find anything to relieve the pressure, discomfort, and suffering even if such relief comes with faulty, inadequate, and adverse effects. 

 

Making room for quiet, for yourself, explicitly for the part that feels hurt and in distress can bring forth more clarity, more healing, less noise, and you would be able to listen to what that part of you is trying to tell you - because it seems it has something to say.

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide.   If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.

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