My husband only has sex with me once a month or less

I'm feeling rejected and frustrated. This is not new. The first month we were together, sex was about every day. Then it slowed down to once a month right away. I love my husband, but I am struggling with this.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Have you said anything to your husband about the way you're feeling?

Start with this.

Sex is after all, a two person enterprise.

If he would like to talk about the way you're feeling, great and wonderful.  The two of you already are continuing to grow trust in your communication and relationship.

If he doesn't want to talk about how you're feeling, then you're facing a different problem

Your feelings are real and need to be handled.

If you end up facing your feelings of frustration about your husband not wanting to have sex with you, on your own, then does your husband give you a truthful sounding reason as to why not?

Ask what explains his disinterest in having sex with you.

If he doesn't want to address this question, then you are a little further down the rung of trust and care about you.

Depending on how satisfied you are with his answers, will guide you on how much dissatisfaction you can live with and why, longterm.

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.

View 3 other answers

More Answers