I over endulge when I drink alcohol and feel extremely guilty about it the next day

Guilt is a feeling that comes from thinking you did something bad. You may be thinking drinking is bad for you. What is it that you want? Who do you want to be? You mentioned you get angry when you drink. How would you rather be around people? You have cheated on your boyfriend. What kind of relationship do you want to have? Are your actions congruent with your vision of yourself? What would be more comfortable for you? Think about what is different when you go out and don't feel guilty the following day.

Many different factors point to problems with drinking. The main issue is that alcohol has a negative impact on your life. Other signs of excessive alcohol use or problem drinking are:

- Consuming 4 or more standard servings of alcohol a day and/or more than 7 drinks a week for women and  5 or more standard servings of alcohol a day and/or more than 14 drinks a week for men.

- You drink more than you intended.

- You drink in situations where it is not safe to do so.

- You continue to drink even though you have negative outcomes.

- You have thoughts of drinking and/or plan your activities around alcohol.

- You are experiencing unwanted physical, cognitive, or emotional effects from alcohol use.

- You find you need to drink greater quantities to have the same effect you used to get with fewer drinks. You have built up a tolerance.

- You crave alcohol.

- You need to drink to feel okay and alleviate withdrawal symptoms.

- You prioritize alcohol over things like your health, relationships, social activities

- You have difficulty meeting your obligations with friends, family, work, or school

- Sneaking, hiding alcohol, or lying about how much you drink is a sign of alcohol dependence.

If you think you have a drinking problem and want to find a solution, several options and levels of support and care are available. First, step contact your doctor and share your concerns. Keep in mind that quitting alcohol suddenly can be life-threatening. Medical care may be needed to control withdrawal symptoms for you to quit safely.