How can I stop treating people badly?

I feel like I'm so alone. I treat people horribly based on what's going on in my life and don't realize it. It ends up pushing them away, especially the ones I love the most. I have a weird feeling deep down inside, and it won't go away. I feel like I'm collapsing.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Give yourself a little more credit for self-observation!

You wrote about treating people horribly and not realizing it.  Only if you truly didn't realize what you were doing, then you wouldn't be able to write about it.

A little self-examination goes a long way.

You have some basic clues about yourself, such as pushing people away whom you love.

Start with reflecting on the reasons for your behavior, especially any fears about a negative result from opening your heart to another person.

The weird feeling you have is also an area to self-reflect and theorize about.  From what you write, you have a solid awareness of your feelings.  This is the place to start understanding more about your hesitation in relationship with others.  

This type of work can be done alone or with a therapist.

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