I feel really uncomfortable around other people

When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.

I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying, I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people.

I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?

Elizabeth Brokamp
Elizabeth Brokamp
Relief is in reach.

First, let me say that I am so sorry for all of the discomfort you have experienced.  It sounds like, although you said you don't like people, I am guessing it starts with not feeling very likable yourself.  The "conversations" you describe having are not really conversations at all -- they are more like an audiotape of self-criticism that plays and re-plays in your head.  Then you attribute these criticisms to other people, as if you can read their minds and know that this is automatically what they think of you.  This is exhausting: no wonder you don't want to hang around other people!  

It's impossible to know from a quick paragraph why you are experiencing this kind of anxiety and whether the origins are biochemical (genetic), behavioral, due to unresolved trauma, or something else.  But I think it's worth it to explore this with a professional, who -- once they help you identify more specifics -- can suggest a path for significantly improving the quality of your thoughts about yourself, help you develop self-compassion, and work with you on changing these automatic negative thoughts that pop up and get in the way of all of your relationships.  Best of luck to you on the path to healing.

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