I'm worried about my new job
I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.
People keep telling me I have "anxiety" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?
First, congratulations on your new job. Apparently your employers think highly of you, since they hired you!
You say that "people keep telling" you that you have "anxiety" - how do they know? Have you told others you are sometimes upset or nervous? Have you been treated for anxiety? Or is that a perception that others have that you haven't been able to counter?
It's a new job, and it requires you to do new things, in new places, with new people. Being nervous is not just normal, it may actually help you be on your toes and do a good job. Unless YOU think you have anxiety, do not let others predict your future.
If you believe you are anxious, get in to see a therapist and address it. Anxiety is very treatable, and you don't have to suffer with it - but you do have to acknowledge it and work towards health.
If, in your experience, this is more a nervous energy than an anxiety issue, there are things you can do to address it: Make sure you take good care of yourself, especially in the first month or two of the new job. That means eating well, getting adequate rest, moving your body (walking, swimming, dancing, etc) every day, and staying in touch with friends and family who are positive and supportive.
Below is an article I wrote that might give you more tips too.
A quick way to combat stress
Do you ever feel like your brain is
"bouncy" and won't settle down?
Your brain, that magnificent machine, is not
much different than the brain that kept your ancestors alive in dangerous
situations. Today, though you may not
need to worry about a mountain lion having you for dinner, other stresses are
perceived and processed just you’re the physical dangers your ancestors faced.
That means a looming deadline or a fight with
your partner creates the same "fight/flight/freeze" response that
saved your ancestor way back in the day.
If you "burned off" that adrenaline and cortisol cocktail by
running or fighting off a predator, you would feel the relief and exhaustion
but you would have also metabolized the stress chemicals that are meant to keep
However, when there is no physical response to
the stressor your body is "all wound up with no place to go". Over time this creates not only the
"bouncy brain" feeling of distractibility and distress, but can
manifest itself in physical ailments.
It’s impossible to avoid stress forever, but
sometimes you just need a way to relieve the pressures of life for a moment.
Here's a quick way to settle your brain into a feeling of rest instead of
Put one hand on your chest at collarbone level
and one on your belly just under your naval.
Now, take a slow deep breath filling your abdomen with air, just like
you would fill a glass with water...from the bottom up. When you are full of air, pause for just a
moment and really feel the fullness.
Then slowly exhale, just like you would pour water out, from the top
down. Pause again at "empty"
and feel the relief of space. Repeat for
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