How can I deal with a “crush” in a relationship?

I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for just over a year. This past week she admitted to me that she has feelings for another guy. She says it’s “just a crush” but I don't know how to cope with it.

How should I deal with this?

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Did your girlfriend tell you her reason to tell you about the new person?

Your feelings of insecurity is natural because you don't know where the crush fits into her life.

Since any long-lasting relationship in which both people thrive, means each partner freely speaks their mind and will be listened and responded, then your current situation is a good one to start these foundations of talking with one another.

Tell your girlfriend whatever is on your mind regarding her crush.   As your trusted partner, theoretically she would like to know all about how you feel.

Keep the expectation that talking about anything at all, is the best sign of closeness.

Once you learn more about this crush you can decide what, if anything to do differently in your relationship.

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