How can I learn to be content and at peace?

I recently broke up with my boyfriend After being together for over 4 years. I truly believe I did the right thing, but omehow being single now has made me very needy and unsure of myself.

I am seeing someone casually and I am losing my mind with anxiety about how he feels about me and this need for validation.

How can I learn to be content and at peace with myself regardless of my career, relationship status, etc?

Kelly Garrity, LMFT
Kelly Garrity, LMFT
Being CONTENT and AT PEACE is a BEAUTIFUL wish for yourself!!  I applaud you for knowing what you need and your willingness to reach out for support.  NO DOUBT the feelings that come up following a break up can be intense, and are often joined by AN AVALANCHE of thoughts that include self doubt, and other negative chatter.  This makes for a very restless uneasy mind, and most the time also a STRONG URGE to feel better FAST!  However despite the intensity and discomfort going on inside you right now, recommitting to your own emotional wellness and learning to self approve and self validate, BEFORE involving yourself with someone new can bring you MUCH MORE PEACE in the long run. Many people find that beginning a new relationship on the tale of a break up, is a good recipe for a bad case of "the codependent crazies" and can make it very hard TO KEEP A HOLD OF YOURSELF, much less to heal.  You may find that there is hope to be found ON THE OTHER SIDE, of what HE does or does not do, as you do the work to take THE VERY BEST CARE OF YOU.  I am sending warm energy for your day and wishing you well on your path toward more peace and power, that I BELIEVE 100% RESIDES WITHIN YOU :)
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