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LGBTQ

The acronym LGBTQ refers to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Queer/Questioning. In counseling, LGBTQ issues are those topics and concerns of particular impact to LGBTQ individuals and communities.
The acronym LGBTQ refers to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Queer/Questioning. In counseling, LGBTQ issues are those topics and concerns of particular impact to LGBTQ individuals and communities.
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Questions and Answers

Allison  Velez
Allison Velez
Is your relationship worth it?

While this might not be the first thing you want to discuss when you meet someone, it is important for you to be yourself.  It's better to weed out 10 people who can't accept you to find that one who can.  

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Lauren Ostrowski, MA, LPC, NCC, DCC, CCTP
Lauren Ostrowski, MA, LPC, NCC, DCC, CCTP
I tailor my therapeutic approach to each client's strengths and goals

Thanks for asking this question. I think the most important part of what you mentioned was that you do it because it makes you happy. For that reason, I would encourage you to keep doing what makes you happy. As far as telling girls or keeping it a secret, I don't really think that it's necessarily... more

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Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Keep doing the crossdressing since you like it. Your problem sounds more a matter of timing and reason to tell the girl about it. Not keeping a secret is a good attitude regarding meaningful parts of your life.  Usually our relationship partner is someone whom we trust as a safe person to know all... more

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Shawn Thomas Berthel, M.S., LMHC
Shawn Thomas Berthel, M.S., LMHC
Step into your new life path.

Hello. Coming to terms with the idea that you might be of a sexuality other than the one in which you were socially raised to be, can be emotionally disturbing, and quite unsettling. It creates anxiety, maybe even panic, and leaves us feeling confused and uncertain about our own sense of identity... more

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Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Maybe this is emotional abuse. It certainly is irritating and annoying to be yelled at for being yourself. Maybe at a time when he's not yelling you can bring up the topic of your own willingness, if this is true, to discuss questions he has about your gender. There's no guarantee he won't start... more

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Traci Lowenthal
Traci Lowenthal
LGBTQAffirmative Therapist

 It can absolutely be normal for men to fantasize about sexual activities with other men! Fantasy can be an incredibly fulfilling experience for you and your partner! This could be a aspect of your sexuality that you would benefit from exploring thorough conversation with trusted someone, like your... more

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Traci Lowenthal
Traci Lowenthal
LGBTQAffirmative Therapist

Hello! You've gotten some great answers here!  I would like to add that transition looks different for everyone. For some folks, transition means hormones, surgery, voice work, electrolysis, and other medical interventions. For other individuals, it means some or none of that.  It's an incredibly... more

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Aimee Beardslee
Aimee Beardslee
LGBTQ Affirmative Therapist and Gender Specialist

Hi there, and thanks for your question! To answer your question, I'm going to point you to a link from Dara Hoffman-Fox's blog. Dara is a gender therapist like myself, and everything Dara says is very accurate!  Ask a Gender Therapist: “I Want to Transition – Do I Have to See a Therapist?” Also... more

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Aimee Beardslee
Aimee Beardslee
LGBTQ Affirmative Therapist and Gender Specialist

Hi there! It sounds like you have already started to answer your own question by stating that you love cross dressing very much, and I am glad you enjoy it! Cross dressing is something many people enjoy, and there is no harm in it whatsoever.  My question to you would be: What is making you feel... more

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Sarah McIntyre
Sarah McIntyre
Sarah McIntyre, M.Ed., LPC

I am so sorry that this happened.  Nobody deserves to be outed without their permission.   I would encourage you to get in touch with someone who is supportive and accepting and plan to touch base with them after you see your wife's sister.  You can also plan to take some time for self care after... more

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