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LGBTQ

The acronym LGBTQ refers to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Queer/Questioning. In counseling, LGBTQ issues are those topics and concerns of particular impact to LGBTQ individuals and communities.
The acronym LGBTQ refers to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Queer/Questioning. In counseling, LGBTQ issues are those topics and concerns of particular impact to LGBTQ individuals and communities.
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Questions and Answers

David Klein
David Klein
Humanistic Psychotherapy for Individuals & Couples

It would be my professional opinion that the desire for you to keep it a secret at all, while yes I could see it as "giving you a chance with a girl," is something that might be more about a discomfort for you. If you are comfortable with your kinks and fetishes (if I may call it such, not my... more

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Katie Leikam
Katie Leikam
LGBTQIA affirming LCSW in Decatur GA

Your happiness and healthiness is key. I would not suggest that you hold back and keep it a secret. You should be up-front about it, but perhaps gently bring it up on a date. When thinking about whether or not you should stop, think about how it makes you feel. Perhaps try to be social at more... more

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Allison  Velez
Allison Velez
Is your relationship worth it?

While this might not be the first thing you want to discuss when you meet someone, it is important for you to be yourself.  It's better to weed out 10 people who can't accept you to find that one who can.  

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Lauren Ostrowski, MA, LPC, NCC, DCC, CCTP
Lauren Ostrowski, MA, LPC, NCC, DCC, CCTP
I tailor my therapeutic approach to each client's strengths and goals

Thanks for asking this question. I think the most important part of what you mentioned was that you do it because it makes you happy. For that reason, I would encourage you to keep doing what makes you happy.As far as telling girls or keeping it a secret, I don't really think that it's necessarily... more

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Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Keep doing the crossdressing since you like it.Your problem sounds more a matter of timing and reason to tell the girl about it.Not keeping a secret is a good attitude regarding meaningful parts of your life. Usually our relationship partner is someone whom we trust as a safe person to know all... more

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David Klein
David Klein
Humanistic Psychotherapy for Individuals & Couples

I would ask you, "do you feel like you need to come up with a label?" Is there something about identifying as one or the other that would be helpful for you? From what current science has told us about sexual orientation, it's a spectrum. There are people on the spectrum who are clearly gay, or... more

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David Klein
David Klein
Humanistic Psychotherapy for Individuals & Couples

There are a lot of ways one could go about handling this kind of conflict. It is hard to know which way might be advisable if we don't know quite why they would yell (or, why would they care who you choose to sleep and/or partner with to begin with?)However, it is of utmost important that you accept... more

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Emily Forsythe
Emily Forsythe
Helping clients be their most authentic selves

Echoing others here, I'm sorry, she shouldn't have. Hopefully, you will have a conversation (or, in reality, several conversations) about relationship expectations of privacy~ Are there things your wife would prefer you not share with her family? Without exploring what is or isn't okay through... more

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Katie Leikam
Katie Leikam
LGBTQIA affirming LCSW in Decatur GA

Hi, as an affirming gender therapist I like to let people know that like sexuality, gender is a spectrum too. It's possible to look like a girl and feel more like a boy, just as it's possible to feel halfway between a boy and a girl, or anywhere else on a horizontal line with two points between it... more

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Katie Leikam
Katie Leikam
LGBTQIA affirming LCSW in Decatur GA

That depends entirely on the doctor you go to for your hormones. WPATH, the World Professional association for Transgender Health, new standards of care say the therapy before hormones and a letter are recommended. There is a standard of care, ICATH which follows informed consent. ICATH takes into... more

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