Lauren Ostrowski, MA, LPC, NCC, DCC, CCTP

I tailor my therapeutic approach to each client's strengths and goals
Licensed Professional Counselor
10 years in practice
Accepted Insurance Plans:
  • Aetna
  • All Savers
  • Blue Cross Blue Shield
  • Capital Blue Cross
  • Highmark
  • Keystone East
  • Keystone Health Plan East
  • Personal Choice

About Lauren Ostrowski, MA, LPC, NCC, DCC, CCTP

*** Just a note about insurance. The practice I work with accepts a wide variety of insurances. The office does not accept Medicaid and I cannot accept Medicare. We accept most other major insurances. Please call the office for specific information, as insurance plans vary widely.

I believe it is a privilege to be with clients along their journey of healing and change. I strive to see the world through the eyes of each of my clients and look at the manageable steps that may be along the way to help them reach their goal. I also believe that feeling safe in session is a cornerstone of the therapeutic alliance. While I recognize that some discussions in session are uncomfortable, there is quite a wide range between being uncomfortable and feeling unsafe. This is certainly a discussion point.

For more than nine years, I have been working with children, teenagers, and adults with many different reasons for arriving in my office. While the most common issues that I see relate to depression, anxiety, anger, conflict resolution/problem solving, and trusting others, these concerns are often just where conversation starts. In fact, what looks like one area of concern often leads to other topics of focus.

Each of us has a past. Even if something in the past is not a reason for coming into sessions, I also recognize that we all learn from our past. Particularly in relationships, we learn what is effective with different people through experiences. This most definitely applies to communication styles and conflict resolution, but can also lead to a lot of other areas. Sometimes what is helpful with one or two people does not apply to other relationships and it can be difficult to see and navigate the differences.

In addition to working with individuals, I also have several years of and specific training related to working with couples. I am trained in the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. This model focuses on new ways of looking at communication skills and conflict resolution as well as looking at some of what has led up to the current state of the relationship. Here is some more information about a few key elements of my work with couples: http://tinyurl.com/DevelopmentalCouplesLauren

I have experience working with clients who have some trauma in their past. There are many different approaches to working to heal trauma. Part of the model that I use involves learning how to relax your body (as well as why this is important) while talking about your experiences. This work assists many different people who are anxious or upset (whether or not in the context of trauma) in learning what is happening chemically in their brain and being aware of what is occurring in their body. You may have heard of mindfulness (being aware of what is happening in the environment around you and noticing things that you can see, hear, touch, etc.). Often this is coupled with being aware of changes in your body (for example, feeling tightness in your chest, fidgeting with your hands or feet, faster breathing) to establish a feeling of safety in the room. The best public description that I can locate about this type of work is a page that explains a training course through the International Association of Trauma Professionals: http://traumapro.net/certified-clinical-trauma-professional-cctp/.

Having emotional changes is typical. Each and every one of us experiences some changes in emotions every day. It's one of the major ways we interact with the world around us. Sometimes these shifts lead us to take actions that we do not want to repeat. Other times, differences in feelings are large or frequent enough that it is difficult for us to follow through with what we need or want to do on a daily basis.

I encourage safe expression of thoughts and feelings in my office. I firmly believe that listening is a large component of what I do with each of my clients. At the same time, I also provide ideas, questions for further consideration, and feedback. I mention this because I have had several clients tell me that they have been in sessions where they do 99% of the talking and the therapist says almost nothing. I am certainly more active in sessions than that. The number of explanations, comments, questions, and exchange of ideas depends on each individual person in my office. I believe that you are the expert on you.

I aim for each of my clients to feel as though they are heard. While we may not always agree on everything, that does not take away from my desire to hear what you mean and where you are coming from in a discussion. After all, the decisions are yours to make.

You matter to me from the moment you enter my office.

Answers  (144)

If you are happy with the person that you are about to be married to and are also enjoying time with other men, it could be possible that you are attracted to people of more than one gender.Having said that, some people have feelings toward people of more than one gender that are not really related... more

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal, as if you want to hurt or kill yourself or someone else, or are in crisis, call 800-273-8255 (24 hours a day, 7 days a week), call 911, or proceed to your local emergency room.

In general, Xanax is very short-acting. You mentioned that you are afraid that your medical provider will take you off of the Xanax and put you on something else. If the Xanax is not working well for you, I wonder if something else may work better. What is your reasoning there? Also, sometimes there... more

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First, be aware that each end every one of us has anxiety at some point. That certainly seems to fit what you're describing here, but that doesn't mean you have an anxiety disorder, necessarily. That's where there is a difference. Anyone who has a hard time with public speaking or feels... more

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Consider talking with your boyfriend about times that you may be able to talk together while he is away. This way, you have an idea when you'll be able to contact him. Does he recognize the feelings that you have while he is away? How do you feel when you are together with him and he is home?I'm... more

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Children often have a difficult time expressing emotions accurately. It is also very likely that your daughter does not understand the permanence of death. Having said that, she is using some very specific ideas here and I would recommend contacting a local mental health professional with some... more

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I first wonder what your anxiety or fear connects to. I don't know whether it is about sex itself or about ideas of worthiness or feeling desirable.There is also a difference between having self-doubt about the actual physicality of having sex (performance-related) or having doubts about whether you... more

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I recognize that you say you are missing being with the love of your life. At the same time, I don't understand whether you are able to see your son. I'm curious as to the relationship dynamic between you and your son's mother.When you say that she "never looked back," I imagine you are conveying... more

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There are a lot of ways to look at this. It sounds as if there is a part of you that is looking for support. I wonder what it is that you feel when you're not in a relationship?Because of the way you asked the question, I'm getting the impression that you are referring to romantic relationships. I... more

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One thing that comes to mind is making a list of some things that happen each day. It could be that there are things that are affecting how upset you are, but because so many other things are going on, you may not notice.Another idea to try is to keep a list for a month of one good thing that... more

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It may be helpful to have this emotionally impactful conversation in the context of couples therapy.Whether or not you should get a divorce is not the first question that comes to mind for me, but more along the lines of do you want to be together and what kind of relationship do you want to create... more

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I would suggest possibly talking with a physician about all the different types of protection. They may be able to help you to know about all of the options that are available.It sounds like your partner is open to understanding your concerns. Perhaps until you have the chance to speak with someone... more

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I would recommend that you talk with a mental health professional near you about the details so you can have some really specific support for what you are going through.I don't know if you can understand when the voices are saying, but I wonder how you feel about what you are hearing? If the voices... more

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Sometimes changes make sense. It may be helpful to talk to someone who you trust to get a sense of whether the changes that you are making are those that are considered adaptable or important changes that allow us all to grow. Another possibility is that you are changing things in an effort to get... more

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal, as if you want to hurt or kill yourself or someone else, or are in crisis, call 800-273-8255 (24 hours a day, 7 days a week), call 911, or proceed to your local emergency room.

If your husband is changing his mind about whether or not he wants to stay in the relationship, I wonder if you both might benefit from seeing a therapist who specializes in couples. In my training working with couples, partners come into counseling with one of three goals in mind: strengthening the... more

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Empathy usually falls on a spectrum, meaning that some people show more than others. Empathy is the ability to look at the world through someone else's eyes or "walk a mile in their shoes." There could be some people in your life for whom empathy is easier to feel and those for whom you have no idea... more

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