Earl Lewis

Relationship Expert
Licensed Professional Counselor
1 year in practice

About Earl Lewis

Are you feeling sad, unhappy, hurt or broken hearted due to a recent breakup or divorce? Is your relationship struggling and often times finding it difficult to communicate? Perhaps you are feeling really overwhelmed or stressed out due to family issues, career, or your current love life?

The past childhood abuse or trauma may be causing recurrent feelings of sadness, overwhelming anxiety, intimacy/trust issues in your relationship. You may have tried to work things out on your own with little success. Let today be the start of you taking action to feel better again. You can learn more by contacting me regarding services and the scheduling of your first session.

I will give you a FREE 15 minute phone/video consultation to discuss how we can work together to get you your relationship and life back on track. After the free 15 minute phone consultation and we feel we are a fit to work together,

Go to:

https://bareonessoul.com/counselor/earl-lewis

Here you can schedule a phone session with me for 25 minutes or 50 minutes.

Answers  (15)

Yes, Counseling provides an area for people to speak to an unbiased professional about their concerns to address their unique needs. While length of time varies, counseling is a process and can be done from as little as one session to multiple sessions. Counseling provide a safe, non-judgmental... more

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To begin, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Like many of the professionals have stated, infidelity is a very difficult obstacle to move forward from. It's not impossible. While forgetting is probably the hardest part, forgiveness is something that can and will happen. There are things you can... more

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One of the most challenging areas for people to deal with is getting over the the person you have loved so much. It's a catch 22. You know mentally that it's not healthy to think about them. However, your feelings are still there. Moving on is tough. It takes time for feeling to go away. That's the... more

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No. You are not a pedophile. You are both under the appropriate age where it would be seen so. Your both only a year a part so this shouldn't a worry to you. Like Frank said below, Pedophelia is a problem that won't apply to this situation. 

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Sorry to hear your friends aren't responding to you. If these friends are in-person as well as online, perhaps going to them in person and asking talking to them about your concern. Perhaps it's the way you send messages or the way they are receiving them. if they say no, then a simple request to... more

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Absolutely. Your question shows that you are going through a lot of pain and I'm sorry for that. Many couples go through this disconnect and hope to come to reconnect before things get to a breaking point. What I think can help is the following: 1.) Understand what his primary concern is... more

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I just want to understand before I answer. Who exactly is complaining?

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First, thank you for sharing such deep personal information. It can be difficult to share such intimate information. To begin, it sounds likes your primary concern your desire to speak to someone who takes your mental health seriously. You've tried talking to your parents and your friends and... more

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Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep... more

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The best way to get an answer is to just ask. I would defintely let him know you are asking out of concern and not to judge or criticize. Allow him to explain his answer and see how you feel about it. Try to ask him when you both are already discussing other topics and just say, "Can I ask you... more

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This answer varies based on you relationship. However, I do believe their are some basic fundamental areas that are beneficial for a healthy marriage:1.) Effective Communication2.) Trust3.) Love/Passion4.) Loyalty. 5.) Unconditional Positive Regard. Everyone has their favorite qualities they feel... more

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Affairs and infidelity are tough areas to address. The power of the affair comes from the feeling of injustice that seems to have happened to you. The struggle I notice people have is with the forgiveness. Forgiveness is something that is asked of you from your partner but also you have the power to... more

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You should start by speaking with her about what has her so down. Have their been some significant events in her life that have affected her? Have their been significant events in your relationship that can be affecting you both? If she just stopped drinking, she may be struggling to finding an... more

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Depends:  What do would you like to see happen?

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What would make you feel no one wants to be with you?

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