Anna McElearney

Helping Couples Build Stronger Relationships
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Accepted Insurance Plans:
  • Private Pay Only

About Anna McElearney

I specialize in helping couples that are wanting to stay together but are struggling with communication and need help. I work with couples that have a history of avoiding conflict or issues in their marriage and are now feeling disconnected and unsure how to regain their connection.

I help couples get to the core of what's happening between them and learn new ways of talking and listening to each other that rekindles their emotional bond to each other.

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Starting the counseling process can be daunting but here are some ways that hopefully help make the process a little less overwhelming.  First, I'd start with finding a therapist through a therapist directory and searching for a therapist specifically in your area and with the expertise you're... more

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For a therapist, deciding to end counseling sessions or terminate working with a client is a thoughtful and intentional decision. One that is not entered into lightly.  While there are many considerations counselors take into account, to help answer this question, I'll offer an example of two areas... more

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A resource I think is helpful to learn more about "what makes a good marriage" and steps toward doing so is Dr. John Gottman's book: "Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work."  Dr. Gottman is a leader in this field and has done extensive studies with couples to determine what behaviors are key in... more

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Thank you for submitting this question. I think this type of situation can be common for many couples struggling with how to keep friendships with past relationships while being in a new relationship.  For me, more information is needed here...but given the information provided, the way I interpret... more

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One key factor to consider is, are you able to repair after your arguments? It seems from your question that repair is lacking after any disagreement or argument. When couples are able to repair after an argument, they have an opportunity to learn more about each other's needs moving forward.  I'm... more

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When "threats" of leaving, such as what you described in your question ("kicking you out, wanting divorce") are continuous in your marriage, it can start to erode at the foundation of your relationship, impacting both partners. And, if you're concerned about the influence of another male in the... more

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Feeling alone in your marriage is one of the most painful feelings. Wanting connection with your spouse yet feeling the all too familiar distance that's keeping you apart can be so hurtful. But, change is possible. You might be able to move closer toward each other on your own but since there has... more

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It's hard when you feel as if you're the only one that's taking the time to listen to your spouse. But, I would look at this as an opportunity to see if you can become aware of what exactly is happening between you, when you try and talk with your husband.  Sometimes, it can be in the way dialogue... more

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Thank you for your question. It's completely normal and natural to feel nervous before a therapy session. Many people report having felt this way.  I can't say enough regarding the amount of courage it takes to reach out and attend a therapy session. For many people, it can take weeks, months, or... more

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Hello. Thank you for your question. Many couples that experience infidelity in their relationship face this important question - "is it possible for us to get past the cheating, or should I just move on?"   Deciding to stay or leave is such a personal decision, one that only you can make. When an... more

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