I have an old roommate who might be a psychopath

I was “mentored” by this guy for a few years spiritually. It was okay at times, but other times, it was just weird. I try not to think about it too much, but a lot of manipulation and lying happened, yet no one else really believed me when I told them. It's like he's two different people, and no one else really sees that side of him. I was blamed for a lot of our troubles, and now we don't really talk much. I'm worried because he's in a trusted position of leadership and no one suspects anything. They just think I'm attacking his character. How do I know for sure?

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

You may intuitively be sensing what many professionals in the social sciences and psychology have already understood.

Just Google "psychopaths and leadership" and many articles come up about boardroom politics and that psychopaths are very successful in these roles.

Theoretically, is it terrible that corporate leadership qualities match those of psychopaths?  

Well, yes.  

And, I consider your question as a mark of your sensitive awareness toward other people.  Being able to recognize social dynamics, is a strength that you have.

Psychopaths know how to be charming and to twist words so that others believe that their own interest is the same as the psychopath's.

I agree with you about not being able to change people's minds who are attached to this person's interactions.

The only way you can introduce a change in the relationship system of a psychopath is that if you are aware of illegal or law breaking activity, and you have evidence of this, that you contact relevant authorities.

No one is allowed to break laws, including psychopaths.

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