How do I get my husband back?

My husband and I are separated and he doesn't even want to talk to me.

He says he doesn't love me anymore, but I would do anything to get him back. Is there any hope?

Frank Walker
Frank Walker
I help couples manage the bumpy road called marriage. Whether your marriage needs a tune up, a major overhaul or just a flat tire changed. I can help.

There is always hope. So don't give up on hope.

However, you knew I would say that, there is a lot work ahead of you.

You need to see someone to talk things out.

Get some space between you and your husband. Don't chase and please don't stalk him.

Do some deep searching as to why he left and what part you had to cause the split.

You can't change him but you are in control of your own change.

With the help of a professional counselor you can get help and direction where you need to change. 

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Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Most important is to take care of your feelings regarding that he has left you.

From your description  there doesn't seem to be much hope your husband would like to keep the marriage going.

Has a long time passed since the two of you separated?   Sometimes, and really this is very rare, people decide to return to their marriage.

If he impulsively decided to leave and now is a short while since he did this, then there is some hope he will decide to stay together.

If he's been out of the house for a while and tells you what you wrote, then there is greater chance he's had time to think through to split and will follow through.

As painful as it is to hear that someone with whom you'd like to be, doesn't want to be with you, accepting your hurt feelings will eventually let you come to peace with your feelings.

To keep hoping against the facts of what he's said to you, only makes your own pain intensify.

The information above is intended as general information...  (more)The information above is intended as general information based on minimal information, and does not constitute health care advice. This information does not constitute communication with a counselor/therapist nor does it create a therapist-client relationship nor any of the privileges that relationship may provide. If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.

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