I started dating someone and found out they lied about some things—what should I do?

He's lied about his past/present situations. Since time has passed, he has changed, but I still have my doubts. I have no idea if I should stay or go, but I hate this feeling. I don't trust him all too much, but yet he hasn't done anything for me not to trust him recently.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

Your doubts about your dating partner need to be addressed and solved so you can fully believe him again.

Otherwise how would you actually know whether he's lying to you now or not?

Start the conversation with him about wanting to trust him and asking for whatever details you feel will give you confidence he is telling you the truth.

If he really wants to clear your doubts then he will be willing to invest in answering your extra questions or wanting to look through his phone or whatever areas you felt were violated by him in the past.

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