My husband cheated before marriage—what can I do?

My husband cheated while I was pregnant with our son with a so-called friend. This was before we were married. We split and eventually worked things out. I thought I trusted him so we got married. Now he flirts with girls in front of me. I've talked to him, but nothing helps.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

This sounds very painful for you.

Are you able to tell him how his flirting affects you?

Maybe he doesn't care enough to change, and maybe he does.

Long term if he continues this then usually people feel they have two choices, put up with it, which of course greatly reduces the sense of satisfaction in the relationship.   Or, of course, you can decide to end the relationship.  This choice is quite significant now that you have a child together.  Give yourself plenty of time to think over the best outcome.

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