How can I get over this girl I only knew for a year?

I met this girl in high school. She had switched schools at the end of the year, and I have not seen her since. It's been a few years. We had a very good and friendly relationship, and we seemed to have a lot in common. I never gained the courage to ask her out.

Sherry Katz, LCSW
Sherry Katz, LCSW
Couples and Family Therapist, LCSW

One way to make good use of the situation you describe is to prepare and rehearse within yourself the way you'd handle a similar situation in the future.

Since a lot of time has gone by since you and this girl saw each other on a regular basis, right now you've got no idea if you'd feel the same way about her today as you did a few years ago.

The relationship does point out the priorities and values you hold for a potential partner.  That you liked the friendliness you shared is good for you to recognize.  This way you realize you like friendship as a relationship property.  To have lots of similar interests, is another quality you appreciate in a partner.

The more you know about what you do and don't like in a partner, the greater your chance to notice these qualities in someone new who comes along your path.

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